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by Debra Brandt on 10/25/17

Would you believe bullying can influence your life forever?  Kids that are bullied  tend to begin their journey with depression around that time.  In adolescents they may be suicidal.  Suicidal ideation may continue for years.  Self-esteem is low and when they get into the work force, the role of victim continues, as supervisors and peers trigger the person's self-defeating behaviors and that person feels they are having a flashback of previous bullying.

Is Social Media Harmful to Teens?

by Debra Brandt on 05/27/17

There have been articles about the harm of social media on our kids.  We have heard teens committing suicide, depression, anxiety, fears have all been given credit due to social media.  Are our kids living in reality?  Or are they missing out on skills they are going to need to be a successful adult?

Were is the money for more mental health?

by Debra Brandt on 02/14/16

I haven't seen any extra money for mental health.  But if that promise every comes through I think a good place to spend it would be hiring enough full time counselors in the school system to offer all kids free counseling.  I would also like these counselors to be mentors to these kids.  Because I, as a mental health counselor, know that kids do not open up and the teacher, who probably has a better idea who may need this service, should be a good referral source.  But because we want no kid left behind, we want all kids to seek counseling and mentorship from a licensed counselor.  

Teaching the kids about bullying in the school that goes undetected would be recognized and dealt with and building self-esteem  should be a big part of this program as well.

I know we have enormous drug abuse issues but I would like to see all this part of the mental health counselors in the schools...elementary - high schools.

I love Valentine's Day!

by Debra Brandt on 02/12/16

I love Valentine's Day.  It is the time of year to kindle or rekindle love.  What an opportunity!  Couples, don't blow it.

 I enjoy waiting to see where my partner will take me for dinner.  The most memorable was when he blindfolded me and took me to a romantic Italian place I had never been to.  He took me inside the place and then took off my blindfold.  I found this a lot of fun and very romantic for someone who isn't romantic.  Can't wait to see what he does this year.  Below are some more suggestions:

Communication #1 Issue in Couples Conflict

by Debra Brandt on 02/12/16

If there is conflict in your relationship, poor communication is the primary issue. Most of the time in investigating the couples communication pattern, the partners will complain that they are not listened to or heard.  A lot of times I will hear from one or both of the partners that they don't even try to communicate anymore.  It is like why bother, "I'm not going to be heard and all I do is get angry and frustrated so I have learned to pick my battles or shut up."  I hear this more times than not.

What is wrong with the above?  
Moving on...something I am noticing lately is my man seems to be more critical than usual.  He criticized me the way I cut an onion the other day.  And he has practically taken over all the cooking  because I don't spice things as well as he does.  Of course my philosophy has been, please go ahead and do it then.  Wish this would work on the house work.  He never criticizes that!  So, he has taken over the kitchen and does his own I need to start working on him taking over the housework.  Any suggestions?

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